Endlessly inclusive, The Desires of Mothers to Please Others in Letters evokes the complexity of real persons as it simultaneously reinvents multiple genres: epistle, prose poem, and memoir. Written between 1979 and 1980 while pregnant with her third child, Mayer extends her imaginative letters into meditations for us all on life as it is lived in real time, with its responsibilities and manifold desires. First published by Hard Press in 1994 and long out of print, this reprint edition includes cover art by Max Warsh, the child Mayer carries as she writes, as well as an introduction by Laynie Browne. Fierce, lyrical, intimate and wise, both new and familiar readers, both mothers and non-mothers, will find this book opening again and again to offer delicious writing, timely information, consolation, and advice.
"Bernadette Mayer’s influential epistolary invention was written during a period of emergent, unbounded feminist literary experimentation and in the context of a vital New York School and East Coast poetic community. The republication of these adventurous, audacious, time-based, culturally critical, and sociable writings reawakens a sense of what’s possible in poetry, between the freedom of improvisation and the predetermination of constraint. Mayer’s invocation of the philosophical question of “the other” as an indeterminate aspect of the actuality and concept of “mother” is particularly compelling to this reader as is her durational attempt “to get at about the bearing of children before they are born." This desire writing however is also, if not foremost, an event of sentences. Mayer’s sentences stretch, heap, languish in densities, launch into anecdote, adjust a perspective, represent realities, compel judgment, rush past the stop, encourage self-awareness, and offer themselves to the pleasure of others."
"Bernadette Mayer’s poetry is untamed, word-loving, thought-bending, scientific, able-bodied, funny, generous, honest, and fearless. She is also a supreme formalist, especially when her poems are at their most playful and unpredictable. That is, she possesses a unique and an exemplary grammar of loving. Mayer has delivered a libertine vision of the last most free site—the home world. And it’s deep, filled with everyday life, children, landlords, laundry, bills, food, dollar stores, and lovers. Sometimes when I am reading Bernadette Mayer’s work I can’t tell if she has a broken heart in a fierce world or a fierce heart in a broken world. I suspect it is the latter. The Desires of Mothers to Please Others in Letters is a masterwork."
"What if we could write poetry at the very same moment we live our lives? What if we could use imagination and language to speak all sides of our mind to all of the others who we love? What if we could invent a form that is at once poetry and prose, at once direct communication and also vast and complex self-portrait of integrated imaginary, intellectual and emotional experience? Bernadette Mayer has generously done that for us in her astounding book The Desires of Mothers to Please Others in Letters in a way that enables us to think of everything anew. She writes a letter to the world who always writes to her all at once and one person at a time and that person is you."
—Lee Ann Brown